Understand what’s really being said to you.

How it works

This is what you see in Telegram and in the PsychGuard mini app.

Example screens with made-up messages.

1111 patterns it looks for

Press a card to see an example and a calmer reply.

• GaslightingDenying or twisting what happened so you doubt your memory.Show an example GaslightingThat never happened.A calmer reply: I remember it differently. Let’s look at what we actually wrote.Back
• Emotional blackmailUsing guilt, fear or obligation to control what you do.Show an example Emotional blackmailAfter everything I do for you…A calmer reply: I care about you, and I can still say no to this.Back
• DARVODeny, attack, then reverse roles so the person who was hurt looks like the offender.Show an example DARVOI’m the real victim here.A calmer reply: I’m not attacking you. I’m telling you how this affected me.Back
• MinimizationShrinking what happened so your reaction becomes the problem.Show an example MinimizationIt was just a joke.A calmer reply: It may have been a joke to you. It still hurt me.Back
• Blame shiftingRefusing responsibility and putting the fault on you or on circumstances.Show an example Blame shiftingThis is all your fault.A calmer reply: I’ll own my part. I won’t take all of it.Back
• Silent treatmentGoing quiet as punishment or to gain control.Show an example Silent treatmentSeen.A calmer reply: I’m here when you want to talk.Back
• Personal criticismAttacking who you are instead of addressing a behavior.Show an example Personal criticismYou always mess everything up.A calmer reply: Let’s talk about what happened, not about who I am.Back
• TriangulationPulling in a third person to back up their view or dismiss yours.Show an example TriangulationEven my mom thinks something’s wrong with you.A calmer reply: I want to hear what you think, not what others say about me.Back
• Passive aggressionHostility through sarcasm, backhanded compliments or stalling.Show an example Passive aggressionFine. Do whatever you want.A calmer reply: It sounds like something’s wrong. Can you tell me directly?Back
• Love bombingOverwhelming affection or flattery to win trust and control quickly.Show an example Love bombingThere’s no one else like you.A calmer reply: That’s kind. I’d still like to take things at my own pace.Back
• Moving goalpostsChanging the rules so expectations can never be met.Show an example Moving goalpostsThat’s still not enough.A calmer reply: What exactly would be enough? Let’s agree on it.Back
• Other manipulationSomething that fits none of the eleven? The bot still flags it as other manipulation.